My Road
What is your road?
Every woman has a road that belongs to her.
Reflect · Choose · Belong
The road back to you may lead toward something you once loved, something you set down, or somewhere you have never been before.
The road back to you is a return to authorship. A return to your own voice, your own discernment, your own right to decide what comes next.
Where are you today?
There is no right answer. Choose the one that feels closest.
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I'M GOING BACK FOR SOMETHING
Sometimes what we set down still calls to us. There is power in returning.
I'M READY FOR A NEW ROAD
A new road can be both exciting and confronting. It starts with a choice.
I ALREADY KNOW MY ROAD
There is beauty in knowing. Clarity deserves to be celebrated.
Not sure what you need right now?
The Code can help you honour what you notice before you choose your direction.
Something to sit with
Love Without Leaving Yourself
You are allowed to have a place in the life you share.
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Love Without Leaving Yourself
You are allowed to have a place in the life you share.
Read when you have a momentClose this reflection
A friend asks if you would like to go for a walk on Saturday.
You want to say yes. Before you answer, you run through the morning in your head. Who needs a lift? What needs doing? Will anyone be disappointed if you are somewhere else?
By the time you reach yourself, the morning is full.
There may be real things to arrange. Someone may need care. Time, money or energy may be scarce. There may also be a familiar habit at work: making your own wish the easiest thing to remove.
Pause there for a moment.
Let the wish stay long enough to be heard.
Loving someone involves care. It means listening, keeping promises, making adjustments and returning to a difficult conversation with a willingness to understand. Your needs belong in that care too.
Some seasons ask much more of one person than the other. Illness, grief, parenting and the ordinary weight of life can change what each of you has to give. Even then, your tiredness deserves attention. Your wishes can remain part of the conversation.
Perhaps the first step is a sentence: “I would really like to go. Could we work out the morning together?”
Saturday may still be difficult. Naming what matters to you allows it to become part of what you consider together.
The same room belongs to the person you love. Both of you can have limits, ask for support, make mistakes and take responsibility for repairing hurt. You can remain curious about who each of you is becoming.
You are someone to care for inside this life, too.
A moment for you
Take whichever question meets you today. You can keep your answers to yourself.
- Where do I feel free to be myself in my relationships?
- What have I stopped asking for?
- What would making room for both of us look like?
One small practice
Notice one wish you usually dismiss. Give it a sentence of its own: “I would like…”
You can keep that sentence to yourself. If it feels safe and useful, you might share it and explore what would make room for it possible.
Carry one thing with you
If a promise to yourself has become clear, you can keep it in My Covenant, in your own words, and return to it when you need to.
Open My Covenant